Hello fellow tired moms like myself!
I can’t tell you enough how much I relied on several cups of coffee, filled with an abundance of sugar & cream only to come back hours later to cold caffeine sitting all alone on my Kerig.
It came to my attention that as a stay-at-home mom taking care of the kids and daily tasks is overly exhausting! Remind me again why I decided to be a stay-at-home mom… oh yes because I love my kids and it’s what I really wanted to do. So, often times I end up getting caught up with things that I forget about like that beautiful cup of coffee.
I had no idea how tiring it would be that’s for sure! Things were kinda slipping and falling out of my control. I was burnt out, sad to say but true. My family needed me. I needed to make a change. Time to get motivated. I needed to somehow regain my energy back. That’s when I started some amazing habits to live by! They are easy to follow and will make you a happier mommy day after day.
1. Begin a Morning Routine
This is so important and literally made my life happier & less stressful just by following a routine. I’ve never been an early riser, in fact I’m kinda of a walking cranky zombie in the morning for a good 20-30 min. It takes me awhile to wake up and smell the roses. I like to be ready for the day and enjoy some quite time before the kiddos wake up. Having a morning routine is amazing habit to start right now!
My typical morning starts at a 6’o clock wakeup. This gives me a good hour an half before the kids start stirring. I begin with rinsing my face using a citrus facial wash because the smell is so refreshing. I walk in the kitchen and have a large glass of cold water. Start my coffee maker and head back to the bedroom to change out of my jammies. This is hard to stick with in the beginning because it is so easy to lounge around all day in them but over time it has been more beneficial to actually “get dressed”.
This year I also started to implement putting makeup on everyday no matter what. I don’t know if your anything like me but being home all day I never did my makeup and when I did I wore barely anything. One of my New Year’s resolutions is to something everyday that makes me feel good. Silly as it sounds but it really has added some positive vibes in my day!
Next in my morning routine is making the bed because that’s where I fold clothes. Grab my cup of coffee and begin folding, then load the washer back up. I only do laundry 3-4 days a week, which I also mention in How I Made More Family Time in 5 Steps. Laundry is a dreaded chore of mine which is why I choose to get it out of the way as soon as possible. To be honest though, I’ve grown to enjoy the silence that comes along with folding.
By now I’m pretty much awake and will sit down with my second cup of coffee. This is where I take the time to update my calendar. On Mondays I normally plan for the week (create meal plans, activities/crafts for kids, etc.), and at the end of the month I usually look ahead to the next month to get a good idea on events, look over the budget, make a grocery shopping list and lastly allot myself 15 min for social media (I had to set a timer on my phone each morning because 15 min can quickly be 30 or more & nothing gets done). There is still a little time left before the kids get up, so I will start to prepare breakfast and either load/unload the dishwasher before I begin cooking.
That’s pretty much my morning routine in a nutshell. It sure does set the way for a productive day because once the kiddos are awake it’s full speed ahead. The mornings are perfect for peaceful thinking so if your rather use it for reading, meditation, yoga stretches or a brisk walk outdoors that’s fantastic!
2. Get a Good Night’s Sleep
A bedtime routine is just as important as the morning. I love my sleep, but I also know the struggle of “me time”. Once the kids are peacefully snoozing, I like to spend some quality time with my husband, my favorite shows or video games, wine and chocolate. By the time I’m ready for bed it’s almost midnight sometimes. As much as I like that relax time in the evening, it becomes a constant struggle getting up in the morning. Here are some habits that I use that you can start right now for getting a good night’s sleep:
- Limit late night snacking, alcohol, & caffeine- it’s best to avoid all together before bed, but there’s always the occasion right? replace the urges with healthy snacks, drink warm decaffeinated tea etc.
- Reading a book is quite relaxing and makes you sleepy
- Take a warm shower or relaxing bath before bed
- Try making Sleepytime Herbal Tea or melatonin apart of your bedtime routine
- Yoga stretches before bed
- Play some soothing instrumental music as background noise
3. Make Time to Exercise
This is pretty much something I procrastinated on doing for the longest time. I used to have time to workout in the gym before kids and I was always in recreational sports. For some odd reason, I just kinda quit. I lightly exercised when I was pregnant and ate healthy as well. I envy those moms that can jump right back into exercising with a newborn and getting their pre-baby body back! This is something I slowly achieved but as time went on, I saw the number on the scale get higher!
Come to find out there are lots of benefits to working out. It just takes longer to see some results but it’s totally worth it once I follow through long-term. Even if all you have time for is 10 min, be sure to make those minutes count. Start out slow ( 1-2 times a week) to get your body ready for a big change.
Determine when you can make time to exercise. Are the mornings, afternoon, early evening or late-night better for your schedule? I mostly workout during naptime and pop in a workout video, or mess with my punching bag downstairs (Christmas gift from hubby- really great for letting off steam) while dinner is in the oven, or sometimes I take a bike ride/walk after dinner. Try and do it 3 times a week and once it becomes a little easier increase to 4-5 days a week.
4. Pray about Everything
Prayer is a wonderful thing coming from a born again christian! I used to go through the motions, go to church on holidays, pray before meals, pray for love ones etc. To be completely honest with you, once I become pregnant my whole outlook on life changed including my faith in God. I found myself praying about everything when I was pregnant! I felt a greater sense of His presence in my life and I wanted my children to have that feeling so I decided to fulfill my need. My family & I needed more Jesus in our lives! I got in the habit of praying with God as often as I could during the day.
“Do not be Anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understand, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” -Philippians 4:6-7
Once I stopping asking for things in my prayers and actually started talking with Him, I felt worry free. I felt uplifted! Having God more in my life has made me a less stressed & worrisome mother & wife.
5. Recharge with Detoxing
A powerful detox plan is refreshing and will leave you energetic!
I never was one for eating healthy but ever since I developed gestational diabetes with my son, I kinda had to change my eating habits. My healthy kick kinda stayed with me for the most part once he was born and I did my best to stay active at home with a newborn. Overtime though, it becomes draining as a SAHM and the struggles seem never ending. I found that I was not taking care of myself and would feel sluggish.
One thing I somehow recalled in my mom brain tucked deep away with bazillion other things was how I used to detox back in the day. I did it couple times before our wedding for weight loss purposes and it somehow resonated with me to be able to recall it.
Detoxing was just the thing I needed to get back on my feet! It is a great way to cleanse your body of nasty toxins. There are so many different detoxes to choose from these days. I mean, go search detox and you will find tons of drink ideas, diet plans, recipes and more. If you want a good place to start, begin with a tasty Pineapple Detox Green Smoothie from The Tasty Bite. This drink will give you a good idea of what to expect.
I recommend making detoxing a good habit to start right now because it’s something you can do once a week, every 2 weeks, once a month… pretty much whenever you want to recharge your body.
6. Daily Self Care Plan
It seems as moms we find ourselves sacrificing the things we need or want sometimes for our family. I’ve found myself stuck doing the same thing every day and one day I woke up and realized if I want a change, I need to make one!
Let’s face it moms WE need to take timeouts & relax! I’m talking add something new & different to your daily routine that will make you smile 🙂 Spend some quality time with YOU! Literally, pencil yourself some “me-time” on the calendar.
- actually go to the bookstore alone have coffee and read a book –this is peaceful to me
- bubble bath with calming salts, candles, music the whole nine yards
- book a massage
- call a relative/friend you haven’t talked to for awhile just to chat
- get artsy and create something
- go for a quiet walk or hike
- have a glass of wine
- lay out in the sun for awhile and catch some vit D
- paint your nails or get a mani/pedi at the salon
- take a nap
- try a hobby you always wanted to learn
- turn you jams on & dance more
- turn off your phone for the whole day & escape
The list is never-ending. There are soooo many things you can start right now for a more enjoying day. I just threw out some ideas but it can be anything that excites you! We are in control of our happiness and we set the tone each every day.
7. Take your Vitamins
I used to never take any supplements in my early 20’s and once I became pregnant my doctor informed me how important taking daily vitamins were for my health and which ones would be beneficial during pregnancy. Come to find out we don’t get enough essential vitamins from our daily diet, plus taking them will help prevent diseases etc. Disclaimer: I’m no expert, and these are my opinions based off my own experience. Always consult with a physician about any questions you may have especially if you are already taking medications.
Since I am a tired mom and I know how not fun standing in the vita aisle can feel like, I will get straight to the point on what I think us moms need to stay at our best. Sounds Peachy!
- Multivitamin- Basic –Rainbow Light Women’s One
- Prenatal- I preferred Garden of Life Vitamin Code RAW (you can find them at a vitamin store or online)
- Folic Acid-Most important during pregnancy but has benefits even when not. Shoot for 800 mcg total a day.
- Calcium- Kirkland Signature Calcium Citrate Best pick when looking for a calcium blend with magnesium and Vit D
- Vit D- if your taking a multi & it’s included with your calcium supplement you should be good. I make sure it adds up to 1000 IU total.
- Fish Oil-Dr. Tobias Optimum Omega-3 Fish Oil I make sure to read the back label if I’m getting at least 600 mg of the DHA fatty acid a day with either 1 pill or (2) 300 mg.